Discover the Secrets to a Happy, Healthy Marriage

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Enjoying a happy, healthy marriage is possible; but it takes hard work! Relationships of all kinds require effort to succeed. The everyday closeness of marriage makes it particularly challenging. You’ll find, though, that the secrets of a happy, healthy marriage aren’t actually so secret. They are measurable, achievable, and practical. Let’s dive into an exploration that promises helpful insight on how to approach your marriage from a biblically rooted perspective with practical application for real-life solutions!

Spend Quality Time Together

If you have kids at home, carving out at least one night a week to spend some quality time together can be challenging, but it’s so important. Don’t let the kids’ activities drown it out. Date nights are a great way to connect on a deeper level and create memories that will last a lifetime. Whether it’s trying out a new restaurant, going to a movie, or taking a relaxing walk around your neighborhood, make the most of this time to strengthen your relationship. There’s nothing more hopeful than knowing that each week, you have a special night to look forward to with the person you love most.

If kids aren’t in the mix, consider staying home and breaking out a board game, whipping up a meal together, or simply snuggling up on the couch. These activities can help strengthen your relationship and create lasting memories. With a little effort and creativity, you can easily incorporate fun activities into your routine and bring a hopeful sense of joy into your relationship.

Express Gratitude and Appreciation

Expressing gratitude and appreciation to your spouse can be a powerful way to strengthen your relationship and improve your overall happiness together. Whether it’s through a heartfelt conversation, a thoughtful gesture, or small acts of kindness, taking the time to tell your partner how much they mean to you can have a big impact on your relationship. If you’re feeling hopeful about your future together and want to take your love to the next level, consider expressing your gratitude and appreciation to your spouse in a meaningful way. Speak their love language. If they feel love through words of affirmation, say or write the words. If acts of service mean more to them, express your appreciation by doing something for them. It means more when it comes in their heart language.

Respect Each Other’s Differences, Opinions, and Needs

Recognize and respect each other’s differences, opinions, and needs. No two individuals are exactly alike, and that’s what makes us human. Embracing these differences and learning from each other can bring a new level of depth and richness to your relationship. Just because you load the dishwasher differently doesn’t make one of you right and one of you wrong. It’s just different. If you didn’t have differences, you wouldn’t need the other person! First Corinthians 12 speaks of the different parts necessary for a body of believers to thrive. Verse 17 says, “ If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be?” By respecting each other’s unique perspectives, you can create a space that is inclusive, safe, and full of love. It may not always be easy to see eye-to-eye, but you can celebrate your diversity and work toward a future where mutual respect and understanding are at the forefront of your relationship.

Have Honest Conversations About Your Expectations

Marriage is a beautiful bond between two people who promise to love and support each other through thick and thin. However, the key to a long-lasting marriage is having honest conversations about your expectations. Lysa TerKeurst of Proverbs 31 Ministries calls expectations, “premeditated resentments.” Sometimes, you tend to assume that your partner knows what you want and need, but that is not usually the case. It is essential to have open and transparent communication about what you hope to achieve in your marriage. Fill the gap between your expectations and reality with trust. When you both are open about your desires and aspirations, you can work toward achieving them together.

Pray Together Regularly

Marriage can be a challenging journey filled with ups and downs. But maintaining a strong spiritual foundation can help sustain your relationship even during trying times. Praying together regularly and seeking guidance from God can be a powerful way to deepen your connection and find solace during difficult moments. Remember that you don’t have to go through life’s challenges alone. Allow God to be the anchor in your relationship, turning to him for support and strength whenever you need it. As you intentionally cultivate your relationship with God as a couple, you’ll find that your bond grows stronger, your communication gets clearer, and your love deepens.

Relationships, especially marriages, require hard work and dedication. Your partner needs to know daily that you love and appreciate them—even when you don’t always agree or are going through difficult times. It’s important to create quality time together where you can be intentional in developing your relationship. Talk openly and honestly with each other, pray together often, and remember to remain grateful for one another. By following these five tips, your marriage can not only survive but thrive. Remember the power of teamwork in a relationship. Together you can build a happy, healthy marriage. If you’re looking for more encouragement, download the Abide app for daily meditations to help you find peace and your marriage to blossom into something extraordinary. Together you can work through any issue and find joy all along the way.